The happiness of pursuit?
Posted January 29, 2016on:
Ask any parent what they wish their children to be and they will eventually mention “happy”. It might take a while to get there because you have to strip away good grades, good job, or good person. But they will get to “being happy”.
The most depressing report of our sad state was:
In 2011, Singaporeans topped a Gallup poll for being the unhappiest and most emotionless people in the world. In the Happy Planet Index 2012, Singapore placed a lowly 90th.
We are so happy about being unhappy that we might be the first to have coined the phrase “under happy”.
So how do we get happy?
I look to the wisdom offered by a movie I caught on Netflix, Hector and the Search for Happiness. It starred the irrepressible Simon Pegg as Hector. (At the moment, the movie is available in the Netflix US catalogue, but not the Netflix Singapore one.)
Hector went on a whirlwind journey spanning China, Africa, and the United States of America, and came up with laundry list of how to be happy.
The most counterintuitive tip was not to pursue happiness at all.
In an inspiring speech on happiness, a fictional researcher on happiness made the case that happiness was a byproduct of what we do.
The more we focus on our own personal happiness, the more it eludes us. We should concern ourselves not so much with the pursuit of happiness, but with the happiness of pursuit.
The thing to do then is to engage in activities or work that matter. That way you know that you have an impact or are otherwise making a difference.
As for me, I have long learnt not to fixate on happiness as a goal. Instead, I look for contentedness. I find it in the everyday and the unusual, the singular and the plural, the minor in the major. If it makes me smile, I am content, and that makes me happy.